This may be a touchy subject but I think it's something that needs to be said. Some women are not meant to be Mothers. I'm not saying that is a bad thing. I'm simply saying that it is a choice that we are given and one that cannot be taken lightly at all. Being a Mom is something that you will be for the rest of your life. A child is not an animal that you are going to get bored with and then send off to the pound or put on Craig's List. And don't expect to just drop that kid off with your parents when ever you feel like it to go off for a weekend or 16 years either. That's just not how God meant for you to take care of this little miracle.
I do want to commend those women who chose not to have children. Those wonderful women who realized that raising a family does not make them a whole woman just like marrying a man does not make you a better woman. BRAVO!!!!
It does scare me more then a bit to hear a woman say she wants to wait until she is in her late 30's or 40's to have her first baby. This is not healthy for her or the baby and my goodness, they just have no clue how much energy it takes to raise a child. There is a reason why our bodies are ripe in our 20's so that we can run after those kids instead of putting a leash on them or forcing them to be babyset by a TV all day and have their sponge like brains turn to mush.
Am I a good Mom? Was I a good Mom when my kids were little? Well, I know I made some mistakes, probably a lot of them but, I learned and I also learned from other parents. I also had to work but, I made time for my kids and I was there for them. I will admit my biggest mistake was in choosing their Fathers. And I have appologized profusly for that. I will also admit that I did one thing very right, Love. I freely give my children my love and support.
As an adopted child, I have always wondered who my parents are. I have very little to go on and I'm not going to use this forum to elaberate on that subject but I will say that I respect my Birth Mom for bing able to let go. I know it was not her decision but, she was able to let go and I can respect her for that. I could not let go. I will also add if she is looking for me, I've been looking for her since 1984.
I could have been put in the same position as my Birth Mom. I was very young when I was pregnant with Geoff. My reason for keeping my son was at the time based partly in the fact that I could not put a child up for adoption after being an adopted child. Maybe that was not a great idea, but, Geoff was the 1st of my greatest creations and I never for a second regreted having him or being his Mom even at 17.
Getting back to subject. I'll give you a great example, the woman who adopted me. She should never have been a Mother. Red Flag #1 She adopted my Brother & I because she didn't want to be bothered with pregnancies. I personally enjoyed my pregnancies, everyone of them including my 2 miscarriages. The joy of knowing you have a miracle growing inside of you is like no other. Red Flag #2 She physically abused us on a daily basis. This made me do exact opposite with my kids.I smothered them with love instead of hate. Red Flag #3 She had me working by the time I was about 5 years old. I started out with modeling in 71 and then singing in 72. I kept modeling until I was about 5 months pregnant with Geoff. The deal was if I was living under her roof, I had to be making money. She did not do this to my Brother though. And no, I did not see much of that money until I was about 14 years old and working full time jobs. Of course I did not do this to my kids. Amy did try out for 1 modeling agency on her own accord and I supported her through the auditions. I'd love to see my Grand Daughter get into modeling now because I know she is an "It Girl" not because I'm her Grandma but, because I happen to have a good eye. And if you are going to be a female model, you have to start early. Boy, I'm getting off subject again.
It's 1am. I'll finish this later, please feel free to make comments. Good Night.
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